Warning realness ahead...

My dirty little secrets
& how they can help you...

This is hard and embarrassing to share,
but you need to know the whole truth.

Unless you know where I started,
you won’t understand the power
of what I am going to share with you
and know that I can help you because I have been there.

I know what it is like to struggle with my horse (& in life!)

I know what is like to want so badly to connect with my horse and not know how.

I know what it is like for my horse to take advantage of me (spin around and buck me off).

I know what it is like follow training methods that did not feel right to me but I thought that was what I was supposed to do.

I know what it is like to have huge goals to ride and show at high levels but just not know how to get there.

I know what it is like to be terrified trail riding. 

Heck, I know what it is like to be terrified of a horse on the ground.

I know what it is like to overcome bodily injury from an accident (I was hit by a car going 60 mph on a bicycle when I was a kid)

I know what it is like to have such bad anxiety, I couldn't hardly get out of the driveway, non the less finish my pattern confidently at the horse show.

I know what it is like to have depression so bad I couldn't get out of bed for 6 months.

I know what it is like to have life stuff happen out of your control, where you have no time to ride or follow your own dreams and goals.

I know what it is like for riding and training horses to be sooo easy when I was young and then to start back after having kids and not knowing what the heck to do.

I know what it is like for rhythm and timing to not come naturally to me.

I know what it is like to have a huge dream with my horse, but let her sit, untrained because I was afraid, I wouldn't train her "right" or "mess her up".

I know what it feels like to have the voices in my head screaming that I am a failure, I am not “good enough” or as good as others, or I will never fit in, that I am ugly fat or stupid, only to realize the horrible voice was my own.

I know what is like to stand on the rail watching other riders and wishing I was as good as they are, paralyzed by comparing myself to others.

The list goes on and on!!

Why am I telling you this?
What does it have to do with you and your horse?

Because I also know what it is like to get to the other side of all those things...

And as I learned to transform my relationship with my horses, my life started to change too.

It all started with a decision to find clarity.

I made big crazy goals
and have started one by one seeing them happen.

I traveled to France to study with the amazing,
Frederick Pignon and Magali Delgado
the original creators of Cavalia.

And then attended a clinic with them in North Carolina,
the following summer.

I am closer than ever to my kids and mother.

My marriage has been restored.

I have tools to battle my depression and anxiety,
and it is no longer who I am.

I have co-created and built
TheHorseTrainingChannel.com
to almost 85,000 fans all over the world

I have co-created Horses-U (now HorseGirl.me)

And as it relates to horses, (which is why we are here!)
I feel I have a love story with each of the 5 of my horses,

I have a sense of confidence with each of them,
although they are each so different,
I have 5 safe, willing, trusted partners.

And when I get a big, hairy audacious goal, 
that is out of my realm of expertise,
like showing in a new event,
or chasing a cow, I know my horse
will be there for me.

And when I feel unsure,
I know when to ask for help
and know there is nothing wrong with that.

Ok, now that you have a sense of where I came from,
and that whatever it is you are going through
I probably have been there too!

Now you know my personal secrets,
let me give you 3 secrets
that will help you with
any problems or obstacles
you are facing with your horse today! 

(Actually these secrets are pillars
to build a solid relationship with your horse,
and have a lot of fun doing it...
warning you just might change your life in the process,
I know mine did)

p.s. If I can do this, you can too.

There are 3 main components of every, single great horse & rider relationship...

So now that I have given you a ton of food for thought...
let's make it actionable.

There is no good in talking about philosophy without action steps to move you forward!

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